OPEN LETTER TO MTN NIGERIA

Biko ndi MTN, I have an honest passionate request to make.

The other day my phone rang, I picked up my phone and it was my friend that had been on a honeymoon with her husband that was calling.

Before she left, she had promised to call and gist me about her wedding night............... eheh whatizit? we girls gist about stuff like that so don't do your eyes anyhow.
Where was I? Yes, I picked the call and went off, "babe! how far? I know you must have given oga............ and he must have............ to you. Nwa! nwa! which method?" And I kept on and on.
But surprisingly, my friend wasn't giggling or responding but my mind didn't go there till I heard, "AMAKA".

I was frozen, as in imported chicken frozen. My dad was on the line!!!!!
He just relayed the message he had for me and hung up.............
Talk about the most awkward moment of my life, chai lol.

What happens sometimes is that when I have an incoming call, the number showing will be the real number of the person calling but the name that will be displayed would be different. You recognise your callers by the name you store them with an not with their numbers except for a few you already know off head.

So please ndi MTN, I don't know if it's the harmattan or the recession that is affecting your network but please rectify this issue before I commit another blunder.

I AM TEMPTED TO CHECK MY HUSBAND'S PHONE.

These days, husband's phone is always ringing and each time he wants to take certain calls, he excuses himself and leaves the room. He takes his call anytime even in the middle of the night, the text messages never stop coming and quite frankly, I've had it up to here i'm about to loose it. I am a good woman I don't want to throw tantrums or make a mountain out of a molehill. It may be harmless calls and texts but i can't resist the urge not to go through his phone anymore.

An opportunity created itself when one day, he left for work and forgot his phone on the dresser. Eheeeeh, my opportunity has finally come. So I grabbed the phone and rushed into my bathroom to have my way with his phone.

I unlocked his phone but just stared at the home screen. For some reason, I couldn't bring myself to tap on the text message icon neither could i bring myself to go through his phone logs.

What if there's another woman in my husband's life? Does he have other children outside? If I check his phone and find something unacceptable, should I confront him?
And if I confront him, will he be sorry or will we have a nasty crack in our marriage that will somehow lead to my exit from this marriage?

All these questions may all only be in my head, there may be nothing fishy going on. I love and trust my husband and I don't want anything that will put a tension in our relationship.

Am at a crossroads, should I go ahead and check his phone or should I just let sleeping dogs lie. I honestly don't need anything that will cause me heart break.
What should I do?
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She was still in her bathroom when she called to tell me this.
Every marriage should be as transparent as possible. Every couple should have nothing to hide from each other BUT this is not absolute.

For a fact, some people don't care if their phones are checked but a whole lot more people will not take it lightly if their phones are tampered with. That's why is a personal property so, unauthorised persons should back off.

In summary I tell her to step out of her bathroom and let her husband's phone be. If she is really bothered with the manner her husband uses his phone, then she should have had a heart to heart talk with him since last year.  Better yet, she should occupy her mind and time with more productive things.

IT'S FINE AS LONG AS IT'S THE WOMAN HITTING THE MAN.

Christmas is here again and as usual new clothes have to be sewn. I needed to get to my tailor's shop to check how far she had gone in sewing my children's' clothes. I didn't want to drive so I decided to take a cab.

As I waited I watched a little argument between a young woman and an okada rider going on across the street from where I stood. Before I could get a hang of what was going on, this woman had picked up a rock and hurled it at the okada rider's head! As in, I couldn't believe what I had just witnessed. Thank God that he was wearing his helmet otherwise, I would have been singing a different song here.

The man had wanted to leave the woman and ride off when she was running her mouth but the attack made him park his bike and check for bruises and possibly confront the woman. People there tried to appease him, "leave am, na woman." "You know how they behave." "No vex oga, na woman." 

Apparently he calmed down, entered his okada and rode off while the woman continued to run her mouth. She then engaged in a verbal war with anyone that cared to caution her and then later stormed off.

We women sometimes think that it is ok to go violent against a man because we can do it and get away with it. From what happened, people were begging the man to ignore her simply because the perpetrator is a woman. It is excusable for a woman to behave violently but it is absolutely inhumane cruel and cowardly for a man to do same? 

Assuming that the whole scenario above was turned around, I'm sure that that man would have been called all sorts names and probably beaten too.  

Not to pardon any form of violence but i can't help but defend the man who retaliated by hitting back. He is not hitting because he just wants to hit a woman but because another human being hit him and he needed to defend himself. 

My fellow women, if you are shopping in any crowded place, be it at a mall or in the market, clutch onto your purse as if your heart beat depended on it. 

Position it in front of your chest and hold on tight with your 2 arms. Don't worry about how funny you would look holding your purse or bag like that but this is a serious matter o.

I was at a mall when suddenly a woman let out this shout and started crying profusely. As she was crying, she was searching for something in her bag. 

Turned out to be that as people were pushing and shoving against each other in the same mall, the thief had cut the bottom of her bag and stole her money. 

How much? Two hundred and fifty thousand naira CASH.
Let everyone shine their eyes during this period.

Na wa o.........not everyone that goes to the mall is an ajebo.

THE GENUINE FRIEND.

For the length of time you have sojourned this earth, you must have come across a lot of people and in trying to know who and who should be your friends, you must have discovered that not everyone who smiles at you really likes you and has your interest at heart.

A genuine friend is one who was there with you when you were a nobody and is still there when you are climbing the ladder of success. No going green with envy, no jealousy which leads to the person's withdrawal.
Nancy had a bestie back in school in whom she was well pleased. They were so close together that their classmates started calling them 'twins'. In their final year, Nancy had a suitor she was going to marry right after graduation and this gentleman had promised her a job in her choice company immediately after her NYSC programme but she noticed that bestie suddenly developed an attitude for no reason. Her bestie was gradually putting tension between the two of them an Nancy could not understand the change in her behaviour. She tried to have a talk with her friend but she was always unavailable. To cut the long story short, Nancy has not spoken to bestie since graduation.  

A genuine friend is not one who only sees you as a friend because of what he is gaining from you. These set of people do not have what you have so they depend on you to milk as much as they can from you and when they are filled to their heart's content, they move on to the next host they will feed off from.
These ones usually don't like bringing something to the table so that you too can benefit from them.
John is a smart young man who comes for a rich background. His supposed friend is not on the same level with him and so comes to John for help all the time- intellectual help, financial help, business advice help in fact, his friend was basically a human parasite but John didn't mind because he has, so he gives.
Suddenly it hit John, this his friend has never had anything to offer. He always gives one excuse or the other whenever John asks for anything from him. His craftiness made John feel like a fool.

A genuine friend is not one to hide her feelings from you whenever you are doing wrong but will still protect your interest even though you are not around her. No sugar coating of facts but will tell it straight to your face, 'Babe, you no try at all'. It's up to you to vex an hug a transformer or to get your act together.
Cynthia an Shirley were getting ready for a party in their separate rooms. Time for party is here an the party goers were waiting for a cab. As Shirley stood with the other ladies, one of Cynthia's roommates dissed Cynthia's  attire as slutty. Shirley asked her why she did not tell Cynthia to change her clothes, the roommate replied that Cynthia's mode of dressing was none of her business. Shirley reprimanded her and marched off to Cynthia's room where she actually found her looking as slutty as ever. She scolded her too and got her to dress more decently.
Shirley is sharp mouthed sha but she's the kind of person I like around me.

If you an your friend have never gotten into a fight before an made up then you both are just pretending with each other. It could be physically fighting or just testing your vocal chords through shouting.
I know of a friend that fought with his friend because of a girl they both had a crush on. They really slugged it out that day till somehow they both started laughing at each other with their bloodied faces.

Everyone needs friends but don't be in a rush to have them because you might make mistakes in who you call a friend. I've had my fair share of friends both good an bad.
True friendship always proves itself and stands the test of time.

IF THIS WAS YOUR CHILD, WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Two days ago a friend of mine called me up on the phone crying bitterly. She was confused and shocked at the same time and needed some advice from me and she goes,

Friend: Nne m I am finished! This girl wants to kill me before my time, what do I tell the world?!

Me: Calm down. What is it? What did your daughter do?

Friend: My daughter's head teacher just called me an gave me the most shocking news of my life......
Me: Go on, what did she say?

Friend: Nne m, I don't even know how to open my mouth and tell you what she said, heu! Chineke mu ooo!! This girl has brought shame to the family.

Me: What happened nau?

Friend: The head teacher said that the school cleaner was cleaning the restrooms after school when she heard low tones and weird sounds coming from one of the stalls. She at first thought that there was an injured child there so she moved quietly to investigate.

She bent over and saw three pairs of legs there. She, suspecting that something was not right, pushed the door open and saw my daughter with two other girls all naked and being intimate with each other! They confessed that they had been in this act for over a year now.

At that point, I myself had to let out a sound of disbelief. This child i'm talking about is the sweetest girl you ever met. She was a straight A student, basically the pride of her parents. To make matters worse, she is just 11. Wow

I just could not bring myself to picture that girl in that situation. The thought alone just ruins my day. She is just 11 for crying out loud and already engaging in adult activities.

Anyway, I tell her and her husband not to carry out any action in anger or say anything in anger but to just let a couple of days  go by and then call their daughter, sit her down and have a deep talk with her. There has to be a reason why a child of that age would indulge in such actions.

So many things influencing children of nowadays. Woow woow woow.

Whuuh! Feels like I walked into a room that hasn't been dusted in years.
There are cobwebs everywhere with the owners spinning their webs, there are thick columns of dust everywhere, rodents are waltzing in and out of the room like they were well within their rights to do so an every door hinge makes this eerie blood curdling sound.

I haven't been here in a long while and this is exactly what my blog site feels like to me. Well, time to get busy an clean up my blog an re occupy 😊.