GET THAT GOLD!!

I saw a brilliant athlete in the ongoing Olympic games in Rio. This particular athlete is in the women's 400m race and she did something spectacular that she herself most probably never planned to do.
There she was, racing with the other competitors and the only thing she was telling herself was that she had to get that gold medal and she did!

But what is interesting is the manner in which her dreams metamorphosed into reality. As the athletes were all racing towards the finish line, one of them was about to cross over the line That meant that she, Shaunae Miller, would come in second. But she wouldn't settle for anything less so she dived ahead, stretched her arms and fingers forward and made it just inches past the finish line and ultimately took first place.

Applying the above scenario to our everyday lives, everyone wants to be the first and not the tail, to be the sheriff in town and basically call the shots but how do you go about that? In most settings, in an office for instance, there are laid down rules on how to get to the top of the corporate ladder. In fact everybody is scrambling to get to the top, trying to push out the next person and be the one to set the game rules and run tins. It is up to you to find a way to make yourself stand out. You have to take everyone by surprise and get that gold.
If you are an introvert, you have to step out of your shell and show the world that the real person is in there and if you are the 'area scatter' type , then you need to keep calm and listen to your inner voice. In whatever way you are naturally made up, you have to act fast before the other person takes that gold medal.

As long you are acting within the legal ambit of the law and don't break the rules then, you have to think outside the box like Shaunae and plunge forward .
After all, win na win. Weda na leg or hand or head you take cross the finish line, win na win.

THAT DIVORCE THAT HAPPENED SOMETIME BACK.

It's been on my mind tey tey since it happened and quite frankly, if I don't get it off my mind, it's going to feel like am literally carrying a bag of cement on my head.

This is about the divorce of one of Nigeria's prominent pastors from his wife, talking about Pastor Chris Oyakhilome's divorce. From a legal point of view, there is only one instance where a divorce can be granted. This is where the marriage has broken down irretrievably. As in, no mmekwata. 

And there are a number of grounds that the court will look at before it grants a petition for a divorce but that is not what I want to dwell on this evening.

First of all I am not a 'Pastoress' o, but I believe that there is a place of tolerance, forgiveness, commitment plus a bunch of other things in marriage. I've  watched men of God give marriage counselling to couples and intending couples and how they do not encourage divorce and all that. It got me wondering why any pastor and his wife should get a divorce. I mean, where did all their teachings on marriage fly to? Are they not supposed to practise what they preach?

I'm not interested in what happened, where it happened, why it happened nor how it happened. What am interested in is the fact that there was no breathing room for tolerance, forgiveness, commitment and prayer which is a Christian's most potent weapon.

I believe in wedding anniversaries, in family, in growing old together and in everything that should be done to stay together. I once saw a woman on 700 club who stuck to her husband despite the fact that the man womanised, took drugs and basically neglected her and the children. She had every reason to leave the man but she said that she didn't relent in praying or give up on the man.
Friends and family called her a fool for staying and asked her to quit the marriage, take the kids and leave that good for nothing man but she stuck to her guns and at the end of the day, somehow her husband turned a new leaf.
The man was in tears when he was talking about his past and present life. He said the woman was his life and he would have died if it was not for her. If such a couple were to give you a lecture on marriage, you go listen nau because they've seen it all. You yourself go see your own case as akam case.
Call me old fashioned but I'd rather draw inspiration from such a story abeg.