For the length of time you have sojourned this earth, you must have come across a lot of people and in trying to know who and who should be your friends, you must have discovered that not everyone who smiles at you really likes you and has your interest at heart.
A genuine friend is one who was there with you when you were a nobody and is still there when you are climbing the ladder of success. No going green with envy, no jealousy which leads to the person's withdrawal.
Nancy had a bestie back in school in whom she was well pleased. They were so close together that their classmates started calling them 'twins'. In their final year, Nancy had a suitor she was going to marry right after graduation and this gentleman had promised her a job in her choice company immediately after her NYSC programme but she noticed that bestie suddenly developed an attitude for no reason. Her bestie was gradually putting tension between the two of them an Nancy could not understand the change in her behaviour. She tried to have a talk with her friend but she was always unavailable. To cut the long story short, Nancy has not spoken to bestie since graduation.
A genuine friend is not one who only sees you as a friend because of what he is gaining from you. These set of people do not have what you have so they depend on you to milk as much as they can from you and when they are filled to their heart's content, they move on to the next host they will feed off from.
These ones usually don't like bringing something to the table so that you too can benefit from them.
John is a smart young man who comes for a rich background. His supposed friend is not on the same level with him and so comes to John for help all the time- intellectual help, financial help, business advice help in fact, his friend was basically a human parasite but John didn't mind because he has, so he gives.
Suddenly it hit John, this his friend has never had anything to offer. He always gives one excuse or the other whenever John asks for anything from him. His craftiness made John feel like a fool.
A genuine friend is not one to hide her feelings from you whenever you are doing wrong but will still protect your interest even though you are not around her. No sugar coating of facts but will tell it straight to your face, 'Babe, you no try at all'. It's up to you to vex an hug a transformer or to get your act together.
Cynthia an Shirley were getting ready for a party in their separate rooms. Time for party is here an the party goers were waiting for a cab. As Shirley stood with the other ladies, one of Cynthia's roommates dissed Cynthia's attire as slutty. Shirley asked her why she did not tell Cynthia to change her clothes, the roommate replied that Cynthia's mode of dressing was none of her business. Shirley reprimanded her and marched off to Cynthia's room where she actually found her looking as slutty as ever. She scolded her too and got her to dress more decently.
Shirley is sharp mouthed sha but she's the kind of person I like around me.
If you an your friend have never gotten into a fight before an made up then you both are just pretending with each other. It could be physically fighting or just testing your vocal chords through shouting.
I know of a friend that fought with his friend because of a girl they both had a crush on. They really slugged it out that day till somehow they both started laughing at each other with their bloodied faces.
Everyone needs friends but don't be in a rush to have them because you might make mistakes in who you call a friend. I've had my fair share of friends both good an bad.
True friendship always proves itself and stands the test of time.
