For me, I think that a woman should not tone down her success to get a husband but should apply modesty and moderation in her lifestyle and in whatever she does as well. If as a single lady you can afford a Lamborghini (shey na the spelling be that?), maybe a fairly recent Rav4 jeep model would be better. If you can afford to buy a duplex, why not rent a flat with a friend or a relation. If you like travelling abroad for your vacations, try travelling to another part of Nigeria and relax. Don't wear designer goods all the time, try Aba-made. Trust me, those guys are good too.
Don't get me wrong it's good to live a good life, after all you only live once, BUT moderation and modesty are the keys to get what you want as a single lady even as a single guy looking to get a wife who will love you for you and not love you because of your wealth.
Toning down the wealth will go a long way in attracting a sincere man and not a gold digger. Yes o! some men are gold diggers too.
There are some men who feel intimidated when they know how rich a lady is therefore, they would prefer to go after a lady who is less financially well off than they are. Well, tables could turn tomorrow and the woman could become the richer spouse. How will the man take it then? A man who knows his worth in gold should be able to walk up to any lady and let her know his intentions. If she likes you enough, the party kicks off. And if she doesn't want you, you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself that even though she rejected you, you had the guts to toast her.
I heard about a woman that owned a house in which she and her family lived in but the husband did not know that their supposedly rented apartment belonged to his wife. Kasala burst when it was time to pay their house rent and the man didn't have the money ready. He then decided to plead with the landlord, who he had never met, to give him some time in order to get the money. One thing led to the other and it was discovered that the house actually belonged to his wife.
Now what I don't subscribe to is lying to a man about your achievements. That is out rightly bad and if the man later finds out that his woman lied to him about her wealth then that's going to affect the trust in their relationship. I know some women do it with good intentions so that they wont come off as haughty or too accomplished but what is wrong is wrong. Of course, you don't tell a man your achievements on the first few dates but you can let him in on your secret when you are sure that he is genuine. And how will you know that he is genuine? Pray wella my sister, lol.
That's a topic for another day.
