TO REPORT A CHEATING SPOUSE OR NOT.

You visit a friend living in the other part of town and you two are generally gisting and having a nice girl's day out. You somehow look out the window and you notice a couple strolling out the next apartment, they look so in love...they are holding hands kissing every now and then in fact, they couldn't keep their hands to themselves and you are happy for them.....perfect couple *sighs*

The couple were moving towards their parked car, you presume, but you don't think his wife would be stepping out with her husband, certainly not in those lingerie and transparent house coat she was wearing. But!!!!!!! as the 'couple' draw closer, your throat suddenly goes dry and your eyes become like round saucers. You know that man, in fact he is your best friend's husband................
You tell your friend that something just came up and you have to leave. Your friend is surprised at the sudden change in attitude but she says "it's ok i'll talk to you later".

On your way home you are torn between two options, should you tell your best friend about the cheating husband or should you keep mute and turn your eyes the other way.

Of course, different scenarios can be played out concerning the issue at stake but the matter in the above write up is this: if you, yes you, were caught up in a situation similar to the above, what would you do? Tell or don't tell.  

SHOULD A COUPLE SHARE THE HOUSE CHORES IN THEIR HOME?

I remember those days when I was still in school, my single-and-ready to mingle days,I was gisting with some friends about the kind of men we would like to marry. Everyone of us had our long list of qualifications and degrees the guy should have before we considered him eligible enough for marriage.

So as we were talking, one of my friends said boldly that her "husband must share the house work with her o. I can't be the only one to have the kids, take care of them and their father, cook and clean the house, go to work come back and get ready for another round of more chores especially za oza room chores. Abeg o, he has to join me in sharing the house work."

If we were in the Western society, this wouldn't be an issue but we are in Africa where the matter is a different ball game altogether. Men would have nothing to do with the house chores because they are 'men' and the woman understands that it is her place to run the home as is expected of her with no complaints. 

This is the 21st century, a lot is changing concerning this matter.

Since, the bandwagon is moving forward, should men share in the house work or should the women continue handling it all by themselves?

 If I wake up one morning and see hubby like this in the kitchen, that food he is arranging must be tasty whether there's enough salt or no salt at all in the food.

DOESN'T TAKE MUCH TO BE MENTALLY HEALTHY.

Over the weekend, the social media was agog with the story of a medical doctor that committed suicide by jumping off the Third Mainland bridge straight into the deep waters below, *people dey get mind sha. E no fear that wota!*
Anyway, there are many versions of stories as to why he took his own life but I wont select the one that suits me fine and say that that was what actually prompted him to take the decision he took. None is conclusive till investigations are over.

The fact is that many people, in this Nigeria, are walking time bombs. There are a lot of repressed emotions that are just clamouring for a way out, if no rational outlet is available then the irrational outlet becomes the rational one. To live a comfortable life on mother earth doesn't require magic or rocket science equations to figure out. The basic amenities needed for a meaningful life is just what the people need and if the government fails to make them available, life would just be hard. That is why, in Nigeria, almost everyone walks about with a permanent frown on the face.
Mr. A: Oga, good morning Sir.
Oga: Eheh and what is good about the morning?
And Mr. A starts wondering where the antagonism is coming from that early in the morning but little does he know that Oga is thinking about the kids' school fees, almost due house rent and other bills outstanding bills.

No electricity, no good roads, no meaningful income, no good education, no security.
Yes mass killings, yes robbery attacks, yes mosquitoes, yes harsh scorching sun.

These are just to mention but a few o, so tell me how a human being can live in these conditions and expect to be at his or her best. People are merely surviving from one day to the other, counting the days till they just log off and die. Compounded frustrating issues everywhere.

On the other hand, it is about time that mental health doctors, psychologists, guidance councillors, etc are appreciated more. Over here, mental doctors are seen as those doctors that treat stark naked mad people but that is not so. Mental disorders come in various degrees and forms, which makes it pertinent to seek the help of these professionals so that the issue will be managed on time and also managed properly.

Many good looking people out there have one form of craze or the other and nobody would know. Sometimes, they themselves may not even know till someone points it out to them. Trust Nigerians nau, tell a person that he has a mental disorder and see what will be pronounced upon you and your generation.

In essence, at the two sides, the government has to make life a bit more meaningful for its citizens while on the other side, a lot of awareness has to be made on the importance of professionals that deal with the mind. It is obtainable in other climes, so should also be available here.

THE BILLION COIN (TBC)

I never thought I would write about this but I just have to because I tried it and it works.
This is not a marketing strategy of some sort but I believe that if I have anything that could help my fellow human beings, then that which I have should be shared.

I want to write about a new digital cryptocurrency called The Billion Coin (TBC). It is like some digital coins that many people are already aware of, bitcoin, litecoin, onecoin, etc. This tbc is a fairly new type of coin which came into existence in March, 2016. Many people have already invested in it including my humble self and honestly, I can't complain. The most exciting thing about this coin is that its value increases between 1% - 5% daily, never going down! I know it's weird but it's as real as it comes.

I don't believe in being poor and you shouldn't too so the best thing you can do for yourself is to buy this coin as much as possible and just keep them till you are ready to sell, that's all. No referral link to sign up with no network marketing, I can't stand this one, no central bank account or an administrator to pay to, simply buy to sell at your own convenience, it's as simple as that.

So go to their website https://www.thebillioncoin.info and register then get across to me for your coins. Send a whatsapp message to this number +2348062662446

PRETTY MIKE THAT MOVES ABOUT WITH WOMEN THAT HAVE CHAINS AROUND THEIR NECKS.

It's really disheartening when I see women allow themselves be used as personal property or something that is to be treated without any form of respect or decorum. It is painful to see that while there are good decent women working hard out there, there are others that are bent on belittling the value of a woman.

During the week, pictures surfaced online of a guy who calls himself 'Pretty Mike', attending parties with women who have leashes around their necks. I don't know if this is supposed to be a fashion statement or if it supposed to be a subtle message being sent out to women everywhere.

In my mind, these girls in their leashes provoke images of female dogs being taken out for a walk and afterwards, the owner will lock them back inside their cages. I know that money is the reason for this silliness so their best option is to wear chains around their necks in public. On top of that, they feel super hot being handled like that as in, 'this is the new definition of sexy'.

What messages are these people passing on to the younger ones including the society at large? Is it that a man can treat a woman in whatever way that pleases him or is it that a woman should allow herself to be treated like a piece of garbage? As long as the money or whatever benefit keeps coming, then it's fine.

Some will argue that these are all consenting adults and therefore legal. Yes, they are adults but this is so morally wrong. Thank God that the Lagos State arrested him and he has written an undertaking not to do this again.

HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU.

Most times, when I read certain articles that prescribe guidelines on what and  what to look out for in a potential spouse, I can't help but feel amused.

10 things to look out for in a husband;

How to know if she is the one for you;

5 things that will show you she is the one for you;

If he is the one for you, he should do these 8 things........

They just keep coming with catchy headings *sighs*

Many people swallow these suggestions like prescription pills and expect it to do the magic of finding them a spouse. If one suggestion does not work out in their favour, they down another suggestion and another and another and another. At the end of the day, they are left unsatisfied eventually, they find themselves looking for other prescriptions to swallow. It just doesn't work like that.

The 8 conditions that may apply to Mr. A will not necessarily apply to Mr. B and what 5 conditions that works on Lady C won't necessarily also work on Lady D.

Why? Because no two people are alike, no two people behave the same way, not even twins. So why look for a universal law on how to determine who should be your soul mate?

If you want to find that perfect person for you, no not perfect because no one is perfect. If you want to find that person meant for you then.........

1. Be yourself. If you are a good person continue being one and if you are an area scatter please, continue being you. Don't try to be what you are not because at the end of the day, your pretence will wear off like my make up and your true personality will be plain naked. The high pretence in people is what is causing them to end up with the wrong partners. If you are you, you will attract the people that are comfortable with you and take you for who you are. Just do you.

2. Have your own check list of what you want in your potential partner. Not those you read in one magazine somewhere but YOUR own. On a scale of 1 to 10, if your subject of affection scored 5 out of 10 then, my dear, you need to give the person a chance. Whatever is lacking can be improved upon with patience, commitment and love. But don't start out with the intention to change anyone, you will only disappoint yourself. A person can only change if he or she decides to. God himself won't force a person to change, He can only speak to the person's conscience. It is left to that person to make a choice.

3. Be sure that you want to be in a relationship. Don't hop into a relationship because you are being forced to or because you will loose out on something. Or because of all your mates, you are the only one left that is still single. Don't be a victim of your insecurities. Many people are in relationships they'd rather they weren't in. They can't just quit the relationship because there is a lot at stake, even lives might be at stake.

So before you enter any relationship, be sure that it is what you want and that you are ready to go through whatever comes with it, the good the bad the ugly and the beautiful.

4. Finally, I believe that there is God. I also believe that prayers can be directed to Him and He answers them the way He deems fit. May not be according to our prayer specifications but the prayers are still answered nevertheless. May or may not take time though.

So when it comes to looking for a spouse, a moment's prayer is all you need. Doesn't matter how long the moment might be, all that matters is that you prayed. Marriage is not a game for children so you need all the guidance you can get before you venture into it.

No one has ever gone wrong with prayers.