Most times, when I
read certain articles that prescribe guidelines on what and what to look out for in a potential spouse, I
can't help but feel amused.
10 things to look
out for in a husband;
How to know if
she is the one for you;
5 things that
will show you she is the one for you;
If he is the one
for you, he should do these 8 things........
They just keep
coming with catchy headings *sighs*
Many people
swallow these suggestions like prescription pills and expect it to do the magic of finding
them a spouse. If one suggestion does not work out in their favour, they down another suggestion and another and another and another. At the end of the day, they are left unsatisfied eventually,
they find themselves looking for other prescriptions to swallow. It just
doesn't work like that.
The 8 conditions
that may apply to Mr. A will not necessarily apply to Mr. B and what 5 conditions
that works on Lady C won't necessarily also work on Lady D.
Why? Because no
two people are alike, no two people behave the same way, not even twins. So why
look for a universal law on how to determine who should be your soul mate?
If you want to
find that perfect person for you, no not perfect because no one is perfect. If
you want to find that person meant for you then.........
1. Be yourself. If you are a good person
continue being one and if you are an area scatter please, continue being you.
Don't try to be what you are not because at the end of the day, your pretence
will wear off like my make up and your true personality will be plain naked.
The high pretence in people is what is causing them to end up with the wrong
partners. If you are you, you will attract the people that are comfortable with
you and take you for who you are. Just do you.
2. Have your own check list of what you want
in your potential partner. Not those you read in one magazine somewhere but YOUR own.
On a scale of 1 to 10, if your subject of affection scored 5 out of 10 then, my
dear, you need to give the person a chance. Whatever is lacking can be improved
upon with patience, commitment and love. But don't start out with the intention
to change anyone, you will only disappoint yourself. A person can only change
if he or she decides to. God himself won't force a person to change, He can
only speak to the person's conscience. It is left to that person to make a
choice.
3. Be sure that you want to be in a
relationship. Don't hop into a relationship because you are being forced to
or because you will loose out on something. Or because of all your mates, you
are the only one left that is still single. Don't be a victim of your
insecurities. Many people are in relationships they'd rather they weren't in.
They can't just quit the relationship because there is a lot at stake, even
lives might be at stake.
So before you
enter any relationship, be sure that it is what you want and that you are ready
to go through whatever comes with it, the good the bad the ugly and the
beautiful.
4. Finally, I
believe that there is God. I also believe that prayers can be directed to Him
and He answers them the way He deems fit. May not be according to our prayer
specifications but the prayers are still answered nevertheless. May or may not
take time though.
So when it comes
to looking for a spouse, a moment's prayer is all you need. Doesn't matter how
long the moment might be, all that matters is that you prayed. Marriage is not
a game for children so you need all the guidance you can get before you venture
into it.
No one has ever
gone wrong with prayers.
