TO REPORT A CHEATING SPOUSE OR NOT.

You visit a friend living in the other part of town and you two are generally gisting and having a nice girl's day out. You somehow look out the window and you notice a couple strolling out the next apartment, they look so in love...they are holding hands kissing every now and then in fact, they couldn't keep their hands to themselves and you are happy for them.....perfect couple *sighs*

The couple were moving towards their parked car, you presume, but you don't think his wife would be stepping out with her husband, certainly not in those lingerie and transparent house coat she was wearing. But!!!!!!! as the 'couple' draw closer, your throat suddenly goes dry and your eyes become like round saucers. You know that man, in fact he is your best friend's husband................
You tell your friend that something just came up and you have to leave. Your friend is surprised at the sudden change in attitude but she says "it's ok i'll talk to you later".

On your way home you are torn between two options, should you tell your best friend about the cheating husband or should you keep mute and turn your eyes the other way.

Of course, different scenarios can be played out concerning the issue at stake but the matter in the above write up is this: if you, yes you, were caught up in a situation similar to the above, what would you do? Tell or don't tell.  

SHOULD A COUPLE SHARE THE HOUSE CHORES IN THEIR HOME?

I remember those days when I was still in school, my single-and-ready to mingle days,I was gisting with some friends about the kind of men we would like to marry. Everyone of us had our long list of qualifications and degrees the guy should have before we considered him eligible enough for marriage.

So as we were talking, one of my friends said boldly that her "husband must share the house work with her o. I can't be the only one to have the kids, take care of them and their father, cook and clean the house, go to work come back and get ready for another round of more chores especially za oza room chores. Abeg o, he has to join me in sharing the house work."

If we were in the Western society, this wouldn't be an issue but we are in Africa where the matter is a different ball game altogether. Men would have nothing to do with the house chores because they are 'men' and the woman understands that it is her place to run the home as is expected of her with no complaints. 

This is the 21st century, a lot is changing concerning this matter.

Since, the bandwagon is moving forward, should men share in the house work or should the women continue handling it all by themselves?

 If I wake up one morning and see hubby like this in the kitchen, that food he is arranging must be tasty whether there's enough salt or no salt at all in the food.

DOESN'T TAKE MUCH TO BE MENTALLY HEALTHY.

Over the weekend, the social media was agog with the story of a medical doctor that committed suicide by jumping off the Third Mainland bridge straight into the deep waters below, *people dey get mind sha. E no fear that wota!*
Anyway, there are many versions of stories as to why he took his own life but I wont select the one that suits me fine and say that that was what actually prompted him to take the decision he took. None is conclusive till investigations are over.

The fact is that many people, in this Nigeria, are walking time bombs. There are a lot of repressed emotions that are just clamouring for a way out, if no rational outlet is available then the irrational outlet becomes the rational one. To live a comfortable life on mother earth doesn't require magic or rocket science equations to figure out. The basic amenities needed for a meaningful life is just what the people need and if the government fails to make them available, life would just be hard. That is why, in Nigeria, almost everyone walks about with a permanent frown on the face.
Mr. A: Oga, good morning Sir.
Oga: Eheh and what is good about the morning?
And Mr. A starts wondering where the antagonism is coming from that early in the morning but little does he know that Oga is thinking about the kids' school fees, almost due house rent and other bills outstanding bills.

No electricity, no good roads, no meaningful income, no good education, no security.
Yes mass killings, yes robbery attacks, yes mosquitoes, yes harsh scorching sun.

These are just to mention but a few o, so tell me how a human being can live in these conditions and expect to be at his or her best. People are merely surviving from one day to the other, counting the days till they just log off and die. Compounded frustrating issues everywhere.

On the other hand, it is about time that mental health doctors, psychologists, guidance councillors, etc are appreciated more. Over here, mental doctors are seen as those doctors that treat stark naked mad people but that is not so. Mental disorders come in various degrees and forms, which makes it pertinent to seek the help of these professionals so that the issue will be managed on time and also managed properly.

Many good looking people out there have one form of craze or the other and nobody would know. Sometimes, they themselves may not even know till someone points it out to them. Trust Nigerians nau, tell a person that he has a mental disorder and see what will be pronounced upon you and your generation.

In essence, at the two sides, the government has to make life a bit more meaningful for its citizens while on the other side, a lot of awareness has to be made on the importance of professionals that deal with the mind. It is obtainable in other climes, so should also be available here.

THE BILLION COIN (TBC)

I never thought I would write about this but I just have to because I tried it and it works.
This is not a marketing strategy of some sort but I believe that if I have anything that could help my fellow human beings, then that which I have should be shared.

I want to write about a new digital cryptocurrency called The Billion Coin (TBC). It is like some digital coins that many people are already aware of, bitcoin, litecoin, onecoin, etc. This tbc is a fairly new type of coin which came into existence in March, 2016. Many people have already invested in it including my humble self and honestly, I can't complain. The most exciting thing about this coin is that its value increases between 1% - 5% daily, never going down! I know it's weird but it's as real as it comes.

I don't believe in being poor and you shouldn't too so the best thing you can do for yourself is to buy this coin as much as possible and just keep them till you are ready to sell, that's all. No referral link to sign up with no network marketing, I can't stand this one, no central bank account or an administrator to pay to, simply buy to sell at your own convenience, it's as simple as that.

So go to their website https://www.thebillioncoin.info and register then get across to me for your coins. Send a whatsapp message to this number +2348062662446

PRETTY MIKE THAT MOVES ABOUT WITH WOMEN THAT HAVE CHAINS AROUND THEIR NECKS.

It's really disheartening when I see women allow themselves be used as personal property or something that is to be treated without any form of respect or decorum. It is painful to see that while there are good decent women working hard out there, there are others that are bent on belittling the value of a woman.

During the week, pictures surfaced online of a guy who calls himself 'Pretty Mike', attending parties with women who have leashes around their necks. I don't know if this is supposed to be a fashion statement or if it supposed to be a subtle message being sent out to women everywhere.

In my mind, these girls in their leashes provoke images of female dogs being taken out for a walk and afterwards, the owner will lock them back inside their cages. I know that money is the reason for this silliness so their best option is to wear chains around their necks in public. On top of that, they feel super hot being handled like that as in, 'this is the new definition of sexy'.

What messages are these people passing on to the younger ones including the society at large? Is it that a man can treat a woman in whatever way that pleases him or is it that a woman should allow herself to be treated like a piece of garbage? As long as the money or whatever benefit keeps coming, then it's fine.

Some will argue that these are all consenting adults and therefore legal. Yes, they are adults but this is so morally wrong. Thank God that the Lagos State arrested him and he has written an undertaking not to do this again.

HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU.

Most times, when I read certain articles that prescribe guidelines on what and  what to look out for in a potential spouse, I can't help but feel amused.

10 things to look out for in a husband;

How to know if she is the one for you;

5 things that will show you she is the one for you;

If he is the one for you, he should do these 8 things........

They just keep coming with catchy headings *sighs*

Many people swallow these suggestions like prescription pills and expect it to do the magic of finding them a spouse. If one suggestion does not work out in their favour, they down another suggestion and another and another and another. At the end of the day, they are left unsatisfied eventually, they find themselves looking for other prescriptions to swallow. It just doesn't work like that.

The 8 conditions that may apply to Mr. A will not necessarily apply to Mr. B and what 5 conditions that works on Lady C won't necessarily also work on Lady D.

Why? Because no two people are alike, no two people behave the same way, not even twins. So why look for a universal law on how to determine who should be your soul mate?

If you want to find that perfect person for you, no not perfect because no one is perfect. If you want to find that person meant for you then.........

1. Be yourself. If you are a good person continue being one and if you are an area scatter please, continue being you. Don't try to be what you are not because at the end of the day, your pretence will wear off like my make up and your true personality will be plain naked. The high pretence in people is what is causing them to end up with the wrong partners. If you are you, you will attract the people that are comfortable with you and take you for who you are. Just do you.

2. Have your own check list of what you want in your potential partner. Not those you read in one magazine somewhere but YOUR own. On a scale of 1 to 10, if your subject of affection scored 5 out of 10 then, my dear, you need to give the person a chance. Whatever is lacking can be improved upon with patience, commitment and love. But don't start out with the intention to change anyone, you will only disappoint yourself. A person can only change if he or she decides to. God himself won't force a person to change, He can only speak to the person's conscience. It is left to that person to make a choice.

3. Be sure that you want to be in a relationship. Don't hop into a relationship because you are being forced to or because you will loose out on something. Or because of all your mates, you are the only one left that is still single. Don't be a victim of your insecurities. Many people are in relationships they'd rather they weren't in. They can't just quit the relationship because there is a lot at stake, even lives might be at stake.

So before you enter any relationship, be sure that it is what you want and that you are ready to go through whatever comes with it, the good the bad the ugly and the beautiful.

4. Finally, I believe that there is God. I also believe that prayers can be directed to Him and He answers them the way He deems fit. May not be according to our prayer specifications but the prayers are still answered nevertheless. May or may not take time though.

So when it comes to looking for a spouse, a moment's prayer is all you need. Doesn't matter how long the moment might be, all that matters is that you prayed. Marriage is not a game for children so you need all the guidance you can get before you venture into it.

No one has ever gone wrong with prayers.

OPEN LETTER TO MTN NIGERIA

Biko ndi MTN, I have an honest passionate request to make.

The other day my phone rang, I picked up my phone and it was my friend that had been on a honeymoon with her husband that was calling.

Before she left, she had promised to call and gist me about her wedding night............... eheh whatizit? we girls gist about stuff like that so don't do your eyes anyhow.
Where was I? Yes, I picked the call and went off, "babe! how far? I know you must have given oga............ and he must have............ to you. Nwa! nwa! which method?" And I kept on and on.
But surprisingly, my friend wasn't giggling or responding but my mind didn't go there till I heard, "AMAKA".

I was frozen, as in imported chicken frozen. My dad was on the line!!!!!
He just relayed the message he had for me and hung up.............
Talk about the most awkward moment of my life, chai lol.

What happens sometimes is that when I have an incoming call, the number showing will be the real number of the person calling but the name that will be displayed would be different. You recognise your callers by the name you store them with an not with their numbers except for a few you already know off head.

So please ndi MTN, I don't know if it's the harmattan or the recession that is affecting your network but please rectify this issue before I commit another blunder.

I AM TEMPTED TO CHECK MY HUSBAND'S PHONE.

These days, husband's phone is always ringing and each time he wants to take certain calls, he excuses himself and leaves the room. He takes his call anytime even in the middle of the night, the text messages never stop coming and quite frankly, I've had it up to here i'm about to loose it. I am a good woman I don't want to throw tantrums or make a mountain out of a molehill. It may be harmless calls and texts but i can't resist the urge not to go through his phone anymore.

An opportunity created itself when one day, he left for work and forgot his phone on the dresser. Eheeeeh, my opportunity has finally come. So I grabbed the phone and rushed into my bathroom to have my way with his phone.

I unlocked his phone but just stared at the home screen. For some reason, I couldn't bring myself to tap on the text message icon neither could i bring myself to go through his phone logs.

What if there's another woman in my husband's life? Does he have other children outside? If I check his phone and find something unacceptable, should I confront him?
And if I confront him, will he be sorry or will we have a nasty crack in our marriage that will somehow lead to my exit from this marriage?

All these questions may all only be in my head, there may be nothing fishy going on. I love and trust my husband and I don't want anything that will put a tension in our relationship.

Am at a crossroads, should I go ahead and check his phone or should I just let sleeping dogs lie. I honestly don't need anything that will cause me heart break.
What should I do?
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She was still in her bathroom when she called to tell me this.
Every marriage should be as transparent as possible. Every couple should have nothing to hide from each other BUT this is not absolute.

For a fact, some people don't care if their phones are checked but a whole lot more people will not take it lightly if their phones are tampered with. That's why is a personal property so, unauthorised persons should back off.

In summary I tell her to step out of her bathroom and let her husband's phone be. If she is really bothered with the manner her husband uses his phone, then she should have had a heart to heart talk with him since last year.  Better yet, she should occupy her mind and time with more productive things.

IT'S FINE AS LONG AS IT'S THE WOMAN HITTING THE MAN.

Christmas is here again and as usual new clothes have to be sewn. I needed to get to my tailor's shop to check how far she had gone in sewing my children's' clothes. I didn't want to drive so I decided to take a cab.

As I waited I watched a little argument between a young woman and an okada rider going on across the street from where I stood. Before I could get a hang of what was going on, this woman had picked up a rock and hurled it at the okada rider's head! As in, I couldn't believe what I had just witnessed. Thank God that he was wearing his helmet otherwise, I would have been singing a different song here.

The man had wanted to leave the woman and ride off when she was running her mouth but the attack made him park his bike and check for bruises and possibly confront the woman. People there tried to appease him, "leave am, na woman." "You know how they behave." "No vex oga, na woman." 

Apparently he calmed down, entered his okada and rode off while the woman continued to run her mouth. She then engaged in a verbal war with anyone that cared to caution her and then later stormed off.

We women sometimes think that it is ok to go violent against a man because we can do it and get away with it. From what happened, people were begging the man to ignore her simply because the perpetrator is a woman. It is excusable for a woman to behave violently but it is absolutely inhumane cruel and cowardly for a man to do same? 

Assuming that the whole scenario above was turned around, I'm sure that that man would have been called all sorts names and probably beaten too.  

Not to pardon any form of violence but i can't help but defend the man who retaliated by hitting back. He is not hitting because he just wants to hit a woman but because another human being hit him and he needed to defend himself. 

My fellow women, if you are shopping in any crowded place, be it at a mall or in the market, clutch onto your purse as if your heart beat depended on it. 

Position it in front of your chest and hold on tight with your 2 arms. Don't worry about how funny you would look holding your purse or bag like that but this is a serious matter o.

I was at a mall when suddenly a woman let out this shout and started crying profusely. As she was crying, she was searching for something in her bag. 

Turned out to be that as people were pushing and shoving against each other in the same mall, the thief had cut the bottom of her bag and stole her money. 

How much? Two hundred and fifty thousand naira CASH.
Let everyone shine their eyes during this period.

Na wa o.........not everyone that goes to the mall is an ajebo.

THE GENUINE FRIEND.

For the length of time you have sojourned this earth, you must have come across a lot of people and in trying to know who and who should be your friends, you must have discovered that not everyone who smiles at you really likes you and has your interest at heart.

A genuine friend is one who was there with you when you were a nobody and is still there when you are climbing the ladder of success. No going green with envy, no jealousy which leads to the person's withdrawal.
Nancy had a bestie back in school in whom she was well pleased. They were so close together that their classmates started calling them 'twins'. In their final year, Nancy had a suitor she was going to marry right after graduation and this gentleman had promised her a job in her choice company immediately after her NYSC programme but she noticed that bestie suddenly developed an attitude for no reason. Her bestie was gradually putting tension between the two of them an Nancy could not understand the change in her behaviour. She tried to have a talk with her friend but she was always unavailable. To cut the long story short, Nancy has not spoken to bestie since graduation.  

A genuine friend is not one who only sees you as a friend because of what he is gaining from you. These set of people do not have what you have so they depend on you to milk as much as they can from you and when they are filled to their heart's content, they move on to the next host they will feed off from.
These ones usually don't like bringing something to the table so that you too can benefit from them.
John is a smart young man who comes for a rich background. His supposed friend is not on the same level with him and so comes to John for help all the time- intellectual help, financial help, business advice help in fact, his friend was basically a human parasite but John didn't mind because he has, so he gives.
Suddenly it hit John, this his friend has never had anything to offer. He always gives one excuse or the other whenever John asks for anything from him. His craftiness made John feel like a fool.

A genuine friend is not one to hide her feelings from you whenever you are doing wrong but will still protect your interest even though you are not around her. No sugar coating of facts but will tell it straight to your face, 'Babe, you no try at all'. It's up to you to vex an hug a transformer or to get your act together.
Cynthia an Shirley were getting ready for a party in their separate rooms. Time for party is here an the party goers were waiting for a cab. As Shirley stood with the other ladies, one of Cynthia's roommates dissed Cynthia's  attire as slutty. Shirley asked her why she did not tell Cynthia to change her clothes, the roommate replied that Cynthia's mode of dressing was none of her business. Shirley reprimanded her and marched off to Cynthia's room where she actually found her looking as slutty as ever. She scolded her too and got her to dress more decently.
Shirley is sharp mouthed sha but she's the kind of person I like around me.

If you an your friend have never gotten into a fight before an made up then you both are just pretending with each other. It could be physically fighting or just testing your vocal chords through shouting.
I know of a friend that fought with his friend because of a girl they both had a crush on. They really slugged it out that day till somehow they both started laughing at each other with their bloodied faces.

Everyone needs friends but don't be in a rush to have them because you might make mistakes in who you call a friend. I've had my fair share of friends both good an bad.
True friendship always proves itself and stands the test of time.

IF THIS WAS YOUR CHILD, WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Two days ago a friend of mine called me up on the phone crying bitterly. She was confused and shocked at the same time and needed some advice from me and she goes,

Friend: Nne m I am finished! This girl wants to kill me before my time, what do I tell the world?!

Me: Calm down. What is it? What did your daughter do?

Friend: My daughter's head teacher just called me an gave me the most shocking news of my life......
Me: Go on, what did she say?

Friend: Nne m, I don't even know how to open my mouth and tell you what she said, heu! Chineke mu ooo!! This girl has brought shame to the family.

Me: What happened nau?

Friend: The head teacher said that the school cleaner was cleaning the restrooms after school when she heard low tones and weird sounds coming from one of the stalls. She at first thought that there was an injured child there so she moved quietly to investigate.

She bent over and saw three pairs of legs there. She, suspecting that something was not right, pushed the door open and saw my daughter with two other girls all naked and being intimate with each other! They confessed that they had been in this act for over a year now.

At that point, I myself had to let out a sound of disbelief. This child i'm talking about is the sweetest girl you ever met. She was a straight A student, basically the pride of her parents. To make matters worse, she is just 11. Wow

I just could not bring myself to picture that girl in that situation. The thought alone just ruins my day. She is just 11 for crying out loud and already engaging in adult activities.

Anyway, I tell her and her husband not to carry out any action in anger or say anything in anger but to just let a couple of days  go by and then call their daughter, sit her down and have a deep talk with her. There has to be a reason why a child of that age would indulge in such actions.

So many things influencing children of nowadays. Woow woow woow.

Whuuh! Feels like I walked into a room that hasn't been dusted in years.
There are cobwebs everywhere with the owners spinning their webs, there are thick columns of dust everywhere, rodents are waltzing in and out of the room like they were well within their rights to do so an every door hinge makes this eerie blood curdling sound.

I haven't been here in a long while and this is exactly what my blog site feels like to me. Well, time to get busy an clean up my blog an re occupy 😊.

GET THAT GOLD!!

I saw a brilliant athlete in the ongoing Olympic games in Rio. This particular athlete is in the women's 400m race and she did something spectacular that she herself most probably never planned to do.
There she was, racing with the other competitors and the only thing she was telling herself was that she had to get that gold medal and she did!

But what is interesting is the manner in which her dreams metamorphosed into reality. As the athletes were all racing towards the finish line, one of them was about to cross over the line That meant that she, Shaunae Miller, would come in second. But she wouldn't settle for anything less so she dived ahead, stretched her arms and fingers forward and made it just inches past the finish line and ultimately took first place.

Applying the above scenario to our everyday lives, everyone wants to be the first and not the tail, to be the sheriff in town and basically call the shots but how do you go about that? In most settings, in an office for instance, there are laid down rules on how to get to the top of the corporate ladder. In fact everybody is scrambling to get to the top, trying to push out the next person and be the one to set the game rules and run tins. It is up to you to find a way to make yourself stand out. You have to take everyone by surprise and get that gold.
If you are an introvert, you have to step out of your shell and show the world that the real person is in there and if you are the 'area scatter' type , then you need to keep calm and listen to your inner voice. In whatever way you are naturally made up, you have to act fast before the other person takes that gold medal.

As long you are acting within the legal ambit of the law and don't break the rules then, you have to think outside the box like Shaunae and plunge forward .
After all, win na win. Weda na leg or hand or head you take cross the finish line, win na win.

THAT DIVORCE THAT HAPPENED SOMETIME BACK.

It's been on my mind tey tey since it happened and quite frankly, if I don't get it off my mind, it's going to feel like am literally carrying a bag of cement on my head.

This is about the divorce of one of Nigeria's prominent pastors from his wife, talking about Pastor Chris Oyakhilome's divorce. From a legal point of view, there is only one instance where a divorce can be granted. This is where the marriage has broken down irretrievably. As in, no mmekwata. 

And there are a number of grounds that the court will look at before it grants a petition for a divorce but that is not what I want to dwell on this evening.

First of all I am not a 'Pastoress' o, but I believe that there is a place of tolerance, forgiveness, commitment plus a bunch of other things in marriage. I've  watched men of God give marriage counselling to couples and intending couples and how they do not encourage divorce and all that. It got me wondering why any pastor and his wife should get a divorce. I mean, where did all their teachings on marriage fly to? Are they not supposed to practise what they preach?

I'm not interested in what happened, where it happened, why it happened nor how it happened. What am interested in is the fact that there was no breathing room for tolerance, forgiveness, commitment and prayer which is a Christian's most potent weapon.

I believe in wedding anniversaries, in family, in growing old together and in everything that should be done to stay together. I once saw a woman on 700 club who stuck to her husband despite the fact that the man womanised, took drugs and basically neglected her and the children. She had every reason to leave the man but she said that she didn't relent in praying or give up on the man.
Friends and family called her a fool for staying and asked her to quit the marriage, take the kids and leave that good for nothing man but she stuck to her guns and at the end of the day, somehow her husband turned a new leaf.
The man was in tears when he was talking about his past and present life. He said the woman was his life and he would have died if it was not for her. If such a couple were to give you a lecture on marriage, you go listen nau because they've seen it all. You yourself go see your own case as akam case.
Call me old fashioned but I'd rather draw inspiration from such a story abeg.

MY THOUGHTS ON CAMERON'S DESCRIPTION OF NIGERIA.

Why are Nigerians upset with Cameron's description of Nigeria. What he said is the truth and if we don't like it then it's high time we did something about our 'fantastically corrupt' nature. 

Our good morning greetings on the dailies are the mind blowing amounts of money being stolen. The funny thing is that these thieves have staunch supporters who know that he or she stole funds and yet go ahead to worship them.

It is then the same people that will beat up someone who stole a cup of garri. If it's not about stolen funds, it's about court processes being abused. If it's not this it's about a trigger happy police man or someone defending a group of marauding killers and the list goes on and on. 

So what are we saying?

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS?

A 65 year old man whose wife is a nurse started feeling unwell. His wife asked him to see the doctor but the man refused stating that he would rather take his herbal medicines which, he believed, have always worked well for him.

The wife being an experienced nurse, checked out the symptoms and decided that it would most probably be that he was coming down with the flu. All she needed to confirm her diagnosis was a test result which would be available if only her husband would quit being stubborn and visit the hospital.

"Ok, forget about going to the hospital, just take the drugs I bought."
"Bia nwanyi a, rapu m aka. Do you want to kill me before my time? Before these white people came with their medicines, were our ancestors not alive and well!? Kpachara anya gi."

Day in day out, she pleaded, threatened and eventually invited family members to talk to the man but still the man refused to budge. She watched as her husband's health deteriorated terribly and she was out of options on what to do. So.............. she decided to take the only route left. She asked God for forgiveness and started sneaking in the drugs into his food. At first, he complained that the food tasted funny, even the water tasted funny too but she just dismissed the topic and asked him to eat up and stop his whining. Surely, within a few days, his health improved and he gave the glory to his herbal concoctions. The wife just dey look am.

But she couldn't have peace of mind and opened up to him. All hell broke loose and he called her family and his and gave the wife's family a date on which they would expect her return with her belongings.
Now, I'd like to know your thoughts on this.

CAITLYN JENNER NOT COMFORTABLE WITH GENDER CONFIRMATION SURGERY.

Caitlyn Jenner doesn't seem ready to take the plunge of completing her gender reassignment.
In the promo for Sunday's episode of I Am Cait, the 66-year-old struggled with one of the biggest decisions in her transition so far.

"The last six months of my life have been really enlightening," she says. "But one thing I'm really not comfortable with is this issue of gender confirmation surgery."

Her friend tells her she needs to find the truth and express it.

"It's something that everyone has to wrestle with individually," she tells Cait. "You know, there are a lot of people who never end up having surgery and yet they're still men or women."

She seemed reluctant to learn more about the surgery reassignment.


Source: E! News

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For the purposes of discussion, how can a grown man in his 60s, married twice, with kids to show for them, wake up one morning and decide to change his gender? I don't get the rationale behind all these transgender movements. Many men, especially in the developed countries were once women and many women were once men! I need serious light to be shed on this stuff for me because I don't gerrit.

HOW TO OPT OUT OF MTN'S UNWANTED TEXT MESSAGES.

You can now opt out of MTN's unsolicited adds and promos all by yourself.
Just type *123*5*4# dial and follow the prompt.

Apparently, it's like they have finally decided to stop bugging people with their endless text messages.


An SMS comes into your phone. You leave what you're doing and rush to grab your phone hoping that a credit alert came in or that one beta text message came in.
You unlock your phone and open the text messages app. Lo and behold! it is one of MTN's yeye text messages..........mstcheeeeeewww!
Just as you are deleting it, another one pops in........  :-(  :-( :-(

SEE THE BOOK A NIGERIAN GRADUATE WROTE FOR CHILDREN.

Ha! The worst part of this is that it would be sold in schools and children will assimilate what they would be taught. One can only but imagine how the contents of the book would look like.

Three people are responsible... the author and the printing press. While the author's fault is obvious and inexcusable. How can i own a desktop publishing printing press and not edit and proof read what is being given to me to type, bind and package? Unfortunately, money matter have blinded the ethics of publishing. Tufiakwa!!!

Thirdly sef, our Nigerian Publisher Association is literally dead... Any dick and harry can publish a book today without their knowledge and it would be in circulation in the market. Chayiiiiii!

Last last, diariz God!!!

http://www.olamzy.com/2016/03/dayum-see-what-graduate-wrote-as-book.html

My take on this is that the education system in Nigeria needs a total make over both at the Federal level and the state level. 

What kind of  English will the children being taught with this grammar speak? Anambra State for that matter! Mba mba mba, Governor Willie Obiano should kindly look into this matter.

#JustNegoduOyibo.

#OtorokwaOchi

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A FATHER BEATS HIS SON WITH PESTLE AND ABANDONS HIM !!!

Seriously speaking, not everyone living is human. Some are just goats in human skin. How on earth will a father beat a child up to this extent? Even if he stole something, he shouldn’t be treated this way.

8 years old Chukwuma Okafor is presently on admission at the Kubwa General Hospital after his father brutally beat him, left cane marks on his body and a fractured hand and leg.
According to Facebook user, IG Wala who shared the photos, after beating him, Ebuka’s father took him to school and dumped him there. Worried by his state, his teachers contacted a Nun who rushed him to the General Hospital in Kubuwa, Abuja. After undergoing series of X-ray, the result revealed he has fracture on his leg and hand as a result of beating with a strong object which the boy confirmed to be a pestle.

Incidentally, Hassan Maina Kaina, a reporter with VOA Hausa was in the hospital to check on his friend. He saw the boy’s condition and encouraged that the matter should be reported to the Police.

The school reported the matter to the Police in Kubuwa and Mr. Okafor (his father) has been arrested for child abuse. The school teachers confirmed that on several occasions, they made effort to intervene on the boy’s situation but the father proved stubborn and even threatened them. The scars on the boy’s head & back shows how long he has been maltreated by his own father.

Ebuka’s father claims he is a disciplinarian and that his arrest by the police over the matter is an example of the kind of embarrassment his 8 year old son brings to his family. He is yet to state what his son did to warrant such beating.

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This boy's father is evil and mentally sick.
No matter what this child did, it is not enough to brutalize him like this.
While some people are crying to God to bless them with at least just one child, some others are busy trying to kill the ones they have been given.
Just look at his body!

HOW TO DETECT HIDDEN CAMERAS IN PLACES.

Imagine that you look at a new dress and fall in love with it. But what if someone is intruding upon your privacy while you are trying out that outfit?… According to experts, there can be a hidden camera installed to capture your every move at private places, such as trial rooms, public toilets, and hotel rooms.

The tips below will help you to protect your privacy!

1. Unusual small pinhole. Check the room for any unusual small pinhole. Popular places to hide cameras: flower pots, air-purifiers, teddy bears, alarm-clocks, photo frames, bookshelves etc.

2. Observe the mirror. Check the mirror. Is it hanging on the wall or fitted in the wall? If it’s a hanging mirror you can easily check out behind its wall. But if the mirror is installed in the wall there can be chances of it being a two-way mirror.

3. Peer through the mirror. Two-way mirrors are coated with tinted mirror pane substance. It allows some light to pass through it. So press your face against the mirror with your hands around your eyes to block all the light and try to peer through the mirror.

4. Tap on the mirror. Tap on the surface of the mirror: a genuine mirror will produce a flat and dull sound whereas a two-way mirror will produce hollow and reverberating sound as there is open space at the other end.

5. Torch test. Switch off the lights in the room and observe the mirror more closely with a flashlight. The flashlight will make the observation room visible from the room.

https://www.naij.com/746082-detect-secret-hidden-cameras-hotel-trial-rooms.html

Hmmmm. This is really helpful.
Just when you think you have all the privacy you need, you wouldn't think that a pervert is somewhere in another room waiting for you to provide him or her with entertainment.
Uuuuugghhh!!!

AGAINST ALL ODDS: FIRST HIJAB-WEARING BALLERINA.

 

With a dream of becoming the first hijab-wearing Muslim ballerina, 14-year-old Stephanie Kurlow recently launched a fundraising page in the hopes of pulling together more than $7,000 so she can get her certification to open a performing arts program in her native Sydney because, she has said, “I don’t want certain people who are discriminatory to hold...continue here

WHERE MY LADIES AT? SEE THE LATEST FASHION IN NAILS.

Looks like little porcupines to me, lol.

http://www.today.com/style/furry-nails-are-officially-craziest-beauty-trend-right-now-t74761

GARDEN EGG SAUCE.

Today's recipe is a very nutritional one and it's made with your everyday normal garden egg. Could be the white ones or the green ones but I used the white ones for this recipe. Am sure a lot of people never knew that you could actually make sauces and stews with it. I thought so too till I came across this recipe and I was like Wooow! So don't just buy garden egg and eat with groundnut or ose oji (that thick brown paste for eating garden eggs), try out this recipe I want to share and you'll be glad you did.

Ingredients:
Garden eggs
Red oil
Crayfish
Ogiri okpei, ogiri isi (igbo) or Dawadawa
Pepper
Scent leaves
Smoked fish
Seasoning
Salt
Water

Method 1
Remove the stalk from the garden eggs, wash and grind them in a blender. Grind thoroughly to form a smooth paste then set your red oil on fire. Heat it till it's bleached or if you prefer just heat it till it's hot. I like to bleach it because it gives a different taste from the ordinary hot red oil.
Add the blended garden eggs and fry till most of the water in it is dried up. Wash the smoked fish with warm water and salt and add to the sauce. Add a little water to it to adjust the thickness to your preference then add your ground crayfish, okpei, pepper, seasoning and salt. Lastly add the scented leaves and allow to simmer for a few minutes and turn off the heat.
You can serve with boiled yam, plantain or rice.

Method 2
Boil the garden eggs till it cooks well and becomes soft. Peel off the light back from it and discard. Pound the garden eggs in a mortar or just use your blender. When a smooth paste is formed, put it in a pot and boil. Add a little water, red oil, okpei, pepper, smoked fish, crayfish and the scented leaves and seasoning.
(I have to state that I don't use smoked fish, crayfish and the scented leaves when I prepare the sauce using this second method.)  

Method 3
The only extra ingredient here is fresh tomatoes. Use the first method here but fry the garden eggs and tomatoes together. The taste is mind blowing!

This is what mine looks like using the first method.

YESTERDAY'S AFTERNOON MUSINGS.

Yesterday was like any other day, I had gone to pick up my children from school. And as I sat in the school's waiting hall, I looked at the children pouring out from their classes. Some running, some chatting, some sharing their left over lunch with friends and some others doing stuff they considered fun. They were all children just being children and their innocence drew a smile to my face.

But as I watched them, I grew somewhat sober. These children would soon grow up to be young men and women and they will stop being as free with each other. The society including we their parents will pollute their minds about the next person's gender, the difference in their states of origin, their different tribes and religion, their social status in life, who to mingle with and who not to talk to, just to mention but a few.  And that is why we have the world the way it is. A large majority of the human race preach strife, teach how to take advantage of the other person's weaknesses and a vengeful outlook on life. This reminds me of one of P-Square's song, "Do me I do you, man no go vex...." 

Basically, we lay so much emphasis on the least important things in life. We don't preach tolerance, being patient, being civil, respecting the other person's beliefs, being thankful to God for everyone and praying for anyone no matter who. 

And this is how life has been from time immemorial, even the Holy Bible itself acknowledges that the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9) 

Can this world be a better place? Can it be that peaceful? I can't say it is possible because judging from times before Abraham, it never got any better. But we can make it happen if we want to, it will only take time. A very very long time at that. Definitely such peace is only available in heaven. We all have to try to get there to experience it. 

YOUNG UNIVERSITY OF ABUJA STUDENT DIES IN HIS SLEEP.

Abk Sadiq, a 400l industrial chemistry department student of the University of Abuja died last night in his sleep. Just yesterday, he was very active on twitter…and one of his last tweets was something about death. See it after the cut…May his soul rest in peace, amen.

Check out his reply to someone’s tweet about “death being inevitable” hours before his death.

“Someone actually praying against death?” he asked.

http://famenaija.com/young-university-abuja-student-dies-sleep-photo/

It's very sad that such a budding young man should mysteriously die like that. I mean, the guy just laughed at someone who was praying against death and that same death just grabbed him away in the middle of the night. The strangest of things do happen in this world. Science would proffer reasons why the young man died but did the so called reason have to happen after what he had tweeted?

The Bible in Proverbs 18:21 states that, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue." It could be in the form of what you have spoken, written, tweeted, instagrammed, etc. In however form death is mentioned, whether knowingly or unknowingly, it is as powerful as in the other form.  The same Bible in Proverbs 21: 23 states that, "Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity."

So let us be careful in what we say or think whether or not as a joke or not, because this our little body organ is capable of life and death indeed.

FUNNY PICTURES OF NIGERIAN POLICE.

Kikikiki, I no fit laugh o! Follow me hail our Naija police. Dem dey try no be small.

SHOULD A SINGLE LADY TONE DOWN HER SUCCESS IN ORDER TO GET A HUSBAND?

So I was watching the television a couple of days ago and this topic was furiously being argued on. Some said yes and some said no. Both sides had very valid points to support their opinions and I must say I thoroughly enjoyed the debate.

For me, I think that a woman should not tone down her success to get a husband but should apply modesty and moderation in her lifestyle and in whatever she does as well. If as a single lady  you can afford a Lamborghini (shey na the spelling be that?), maybe a fairly recent Rav4 jeep model would be better. If you can afford to buy a duplex, why not rent a flat with a friend or a relation. If you like travelling abroad for your vacations, try travelling to another part of Nigeria and relax. Don't wear designer goods all the time, try Aba-made. Trust me, those guys are good too.
Don't get me wrong it's good to live a good life, after all you only live once, BUT moderation and modesty are the keys to get what you want as a single lady even as a single guy looking to get a wife who will love you for you and not love you because of your wealth.
Toning down the wealth will go a long way in attracting a sincere man and not a gold digger. Yes o! some men are gold diggers too.

There are some men who feel intimidated when they know how rich a lady is therefore, they would prefer to go after a lady who is less financially well off than they are. Well, tables could turn tomorrow and the woman could become the richer spouse. How will the man take it then? A man who knows his worth in gold should be able to walk up to any lady and let her know his intentions. If she likes you enough, the party kicks off. And if she doesn't want you, you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself that even though she rejected you, you had the guts to toast her.

I heard about a woman that owned a house in which she and her family lived in but the husband did not know that their supposedly rented apartment belonged to his wife. Kasala burst when it was time to pay their house rent and the man didn't have the money ready. He then decided to plead with the landlord, who he had never met, to give him some time in order to get the money. One thing led to the other and it was discovered that the house actually belonged to his wife.

Now what I don't subscribe to is lying to a man about your achievements. That is out rightly bad and if the man later finds out that his woman lied to him about her wealth then that's going to affect the trust in their relationship. I know some women do it with good intentions so that they wont come off as haughty or too accomplished but what is wrong is wrong. Of course, you don't tell a man your achievements on the first few dates but you can let him in on your secret when you are sure that he is genuine. And how will you know that he is genuine? Pray wella my sister, lol. 

That's a topic for another day.

KENYAN WOMAN PUTS UP PICTURES OF HUSBAND'S GIRLFRIEND EVERYWHERE.

This Kenyan woman is not smiling at all, lol.
Below is the picture of her husband's girlfriend.

I think she should put up her husband's photo too so that any adventurous lady that would want to play any hanky panky games with him will run away.
They will simply know that his wife does not tolerate hanky pankyism.

'DEMON' SHOWN WATCHING OVER AN UNBORN BABY IN ULTRASOUND PICTURE.

A baby's ultrasound scan has gone viral and not for quite the right reasons. It seems there's more than just a baby in there and once you see it, you can't unsee it. At first sight, it looks like any other scan of an innocent foetus but look to the right of the photo and you'll get the chills. The eerie image was posted on imgur under the heading "A friend's ultrasound. When you see it...".

A grainy outline of what looks to be a woman has been spotted by many people who have looked at the picture. The picture has been viewed more than 500,000 times since being uploaded.

http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2016/01/chilling-pic-shows-demon-watching-over.html

KANU, DASUKI: NBA, SANs DIFFER WITH BUHARI, SAGAY.

By Innocent Anaba, Dapo Akinrefon &Ikechukwu Nnochiri

ABUJA— Nigerian Bar Association, NBA, and some leading lawyers in the country have disagreed with the Presidential Committee on anti-corruption led by Professor Itse Sagay over President Muhammadu Buhari’s insistence that the former National Security Adviser, NSA, Col. Sambo Dasuki, and the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra, IPOB, Mr. Nnamdi Kanu who are facing separate criminal charges, would not be released from custody, despite valid court orders that granted them bail.

In his submission on the president’s stance, Professor Sagay argued that the Federal Government was not in violation of the rule of law as any bail granted an accused is completely related to the offence which he is charged before the court.

The NBA and some Senior Advocates of Nigeria, however, contended that the position the president took was offensive to the tenets of constitutional democracy, rule of law and presumption of innocence of an accused person. They argued that re-arresting someone immediately after the court has granted such person bail makes mockery of our democracy which is presumably anchored on the rule of law and separation of powers.”

Buhari had in his first presidential media chat at the Aso Rock Villa in Abuja, adduced reasons why the Federal Government would not readily allow both Dasuki and Kanu to regain their freedom from detention.

Read more here http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/01/kanu-dasuki-nba-sans-differ-with-buhari-sagay/